It’s interesting, isn’t it? It seems that no matter HOW long you’ve been single or in a relationship, or WHO it is that you’re dating... there’s conflict around just about every corner.
What your weekend plans will be.
Who's family will be the first stop during the holidays.
Sexual proclivities, interests, explorations, and brands of kink.
If we’re lucky, we can steer clear of it, but there are times that it seems to be waiting for us and is unavoidable. Have you ever stopped to really wonder why that is? You're probably thinking "Yea! I'm a nice and cooperative person in general, and especially when it comes to love. So why the hell is drama and conflict following me around?"
Could it be the fault of those you’re choosing to share your energy with? You’re pretty careful to have friends and only date people who seem like caring and self-aware people, so that’s not it. Is it just a matter of bad luck? Could it be some form of fate or karma? No, of course not; there’s more to it than that!
The truth is that conflict can occur whenever people get together to talk, work or enjoy one another’s company, regardless of whether we create or contribute to the confrontation. And the more decisions that need to be made and agreed upon when two or more people or perspectives come together in a relationship, the better the odds of running into some sort of disagreement.
So, it seems that no matter however old we are, how long we have been single, unattached, partnered or married if the circumstances involve dealing with other people, there is a potential for disagreement. This simply is a fact of life that cannot be altered by even our best intentions. With that being the case, the best alternative for stopping the conflict in its tracks would be to learn to recognize the signs of an impending confrontation so we can implement relationship conflict resolution strategies to deal with it, and hopefully nip it in the bud.